All in The Lanyap Life
Have you ever shared something you heard from God with someone and had them assume you got it from going to a conference or reading it in a book? I have experienced it so many times the last six months that it has me thinking.
On Saturday morning, I was downtown Boise with some people walking and praying. One woman began to pray for our nation’s Capital, and when she declared PEACE over it she saw a massive storm raging and thundering with lightening and said they were pressing down over it with unusual pressure.
Here are four prayers God gave to the Apostle Paul to pray for his Christian brothers & sisters.
Ephesians 1:17-23 Ephesians 3:14-21
Philippians 1: 9-11 Colossians 1:9-14
He wrote them in his letters to the Ephesians, Colossians and to the Philippians. We can be confident these are prayers we can pray for ourselves and family members and that God wants to, and will answer. When you pray for yourself, personalize it by inserting me or my whenever it says you or your. If you’re going to pray it for someone else use his or her name wherever it is appropriate. As you pray these prayers, sometimes they will help you to think better and you may even feel better, but that’s not what the purpose is. You are agreeing with God and inviting Him to do these very things. Usually by the second week you begin experiencing those things happening to you and in you. This is not some formula or ritual, but simply a prayer that allows the power of transformation to occur because we agree with what God wants to do.
Check this list of 5 ways our encouragement can miss it’s intended purpose. I have found these to be the biggest areas of misunderstanding as I have tried help those around me. It takes insight to know when someone is open to hearing advice, ready to listen to your own story, and when to simply listen.
One summer, when traveling, I stayed with a family who was grieving the death of their daughter. It had been 3 years since their terrible loss, and they were merely going through the motions of the life they once lived. The second night I was there, the mother confided in me she wasn’t doing well. She wasn’t sleeping, there was a disconnect in her marriage, they had stopped observing holidays and visiting friends or family. That’s when I realized just how much it was costing them to open their home to me in the midst of their grief. I heard the long list of “advice and encouragement” that was said to them, from the thoughtless to the cruel and senseless. And it made me mad to hear all the terrible things people had said.
Because I am a practical, methodical, and deliberate person, I like to know the big picture of any project so I can understand what my roll is in it. I love to create, sketch out ideas, organize and categorize necessary steps, and execute it all with precision, along with the best of them. This skill came in handy when raising my two sons. It has helped me accomplish many projects, everything from keeping a household running smoothly, to creating choreography and training a group to perform at the State Fair, to starting my own businesses. I love everything about creating, and the thrill of setting a new process in motion.
You may hear the phrases intentional living, sustainable living, live simply, tiny living, organic and intentional living. There is another saying that rings true, “there is nothing new under the sun”. So, although these concepts are not new, they may be new to us.
About ten years ago, I was living in a 2400 square foot home, with my husband, 2 sons and 2 dogs. We were homeschooling during the day, and involved running a concert house 4 evenings a week as a mission to youth in the current music culture. It was an intense season, filled with routine chores, lesson plans, homeschool field trips, home church, raising preteen boys, and running a concert house with shows that lasted into the wee hours of the morning. I longed for a simple, and organized life, but who had time for that. What I did have time for was organizing our schedule, cutting some things out and prioritizing things that were important to us.
The word lanyap is the phonetic spelling of the cajun word lagniappe. This was a new word to me when I met my husband, Lee. I had never heard of this word before, and when he first said it with his southern drawl, I didn’t even understand him.
When our role in their lives suddenly changes, it can leave us disoriented, hurt, and lost. For the sake of our own sanity and the continued health of our adult children, we must address our feelings.
This doesn't only apply to empty nest parents, it is true for all of us who have relationships. Let's be well-adjusted people, for the sake of our friends and family, as well as our own sanity.
We get ideas, or a desire for something, but then we wait. We wait until someone draws it out of us, and insists we do it, or we wait until we are elected into a role that will pay us to do this thing. It isn’t that we want to wait, but somehow we feel it is what we are supposed to do.
If we belong to a group, it is easy to adopt a group mentality. But we were born into this world alone, and we will leave this world alone. We are responsible for ourselves and owe it to ourselves to ask these 5 questions…
We’ve all heard stories of how people who were once loving and sweet, transformed into the crazy ex after being dumped. This subject has provided great material for books, movies, and comedies, like the recent series I’ve been watching called My Crazy Ex-Girlfriend. This new version is a musical and a comedy all rolled into one. I have to admit I enjoy it, and even find myself laughing out loud. As I was thinking about the ridiculous things the main character does to get noticed, and the elaborate schemes she spends her time on, often manipulating those around her to get what she thinks she wants… I had an epiphany!
We have all been the ex-something, at some point.